That invasive ring-a-ling that comes out of the blue and fills you with a slight dread. Uhhg. I was so relieved to find out that hating the phone is pretty normal for HSPs. I guess I’m not the only one who avoids the phone whenever possible. This post made me laugh!
This phone aversion goes way back for me. I used to beg my mom to make my phone calls for me, even as late as college. I know, this is so ridiculous! Now that I can’t rely on mommy, I try to set up appointments, RSVP for events, and order things online or via text instead of the phone, even if it usually takes longer that way. I also prefer to text friends to set up face-to-face get-togethers, rather than have lengthy phone conversations. For my bffs who live far away, I do make exceptions because I love talking to them and want to be a part of their lives.
So why do HSPs hate the phone so much? What’s the big deal?
Here’s my take on it.
- The surprise of a phone call. It kind of activates a fight or flight response in me. Sometimes I’m really in the zone- cooking, or cleaning, or just reading in bed, and then that ring just startles me.
- Awkward. There is some inevitable awkwardness that goes along with phone conversations. The small talk, the dead silences, the interruptions, the lengthy goodbyes.
- You can’t rely on facial cues. HSPs are really tuned into facial cues. It’s hard for me to get the full story if I can’t see the person’s face or gesticulations.
- I can’t follow. People talk too fast or don’t enunciate, which makes me flustered, and then I really miss what they’re saying.
- Traumatic past events. I’ve gotten some pretty tragic phone calls (ex-boyfriend dumping me, notice of my dad’s death, etc.) so it makes me nervous when the phone rings, like “Great, now what??”
- Multitasking is not my strength. It’s so hard for me to parent my kids while also talking on the phone. Because everyone knows as soon as you pick up the phone, the kids need you desperately.
Who else is with me? Thank goodness for texting and email. And to my friends who love the phone, you are well worth the sacrifice 🙂